A strong attorney can handle the legal work and still leave you carrying an enormous amount of the divorce yourself. Elise works with you one-on-one to organize what is happening, prepare for important conversations, think through difficult decisions, and stay focused on what you are trying to accomplish. When the process becomes financially complex, high-conflict, emotionally exhausting, or simply too much to keep straight alone, you have a place to bring it and work through it.
Led by Elise Iafrate, JD/MBA — a licensed attorney who stepped away from practicing law to help women navigate the strategy behind the process.
Your attorney has an important job. But divorce creates questions that do not always belong in a legal meeting. Should you respond to that message? Is this worth documenting? What does your attorney actually need to know? What should you ask before the next meeting? Which financial question belongs with your CPA or advisor? Are you making a decision because it serves your goals, or because you are exhausted and want the conflict to stop? That is the work Elise helps you sort through.
Private consulting gives you a place to slow things down, get organized, and work through what comes next:
Prepare for What Comes Next
Get your questions, documents, timeline, and priorities organized before important meetings so you walk in knowing what you need to accomplish.
Handle Conflict More Deliberately
Talk through difficult messages, recurring patterns, and high-pressure situations before reacting. Decide what needs a response, what needs documentation, and what may simply be noise.
Keep the Bigger Picture in View
Divorce can pull your attention toward whatever is loudest today. Elise helps you keep important decisions connected to your longer-term goals, finances, family, and life after divorce.
Private consulting gives you a consistent place to bring the parts of divorce that do not fit neatly anywhere else. You might sit down with Elise to prepare for an attorney meeting, organize a timeline, work through a difficult communication, make sense of the professionals involved, or think through a decision before you make it under pressure.
She can also help you stay organized when attorneys, financial advisors, tax professionals, valuation experts, therapists, and other specialists are involved. You do not need to become an expert in every discipline. You need to know what questions to ask, who should answer them, and how those answers connect to your goals.
Elise’s legal background gives her context for how divorce moves through the system. Her role here is different. She has the time and perspective to work with you on the strategy, preparation, communication, and day-to-day decisions surrounding that legal process.
Private consulting engagements currently begin at $1,200 per month.
You do not need a perfect summary before reaching out. Tell Elise where things stand, what feels hardest to manage right now, and what you are trying to make clearer.
SWANS began as Supporting Women Against Narcissistic Spouses. Today, that mission lives inside Divorce Strategy by Elise. The work is designed to help women navigate control, manipulation, escalation, and other high-conflict dynamics with more clarity and structure.
The strategy does not depend on diagnosing a spouse. It focuses on observable conduct, useful documentation, professional preparation, and deliberate decisions.
Elise Iafrate, JD/MBA, is a licensed attorney who intentionally stepped away from legal practice to work more directly with women navigating divorce.
She understands the legal process, but she also knows how much still falls on the client: preparation, communication, financial questions, professional coordination, and the decisions that happen outside a lawyer’s role.
Today, Elise helps women bring structure to those parts of the process, prepare for the right professional conversations, and stay focused on what matters next.
